“Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.”
Happy Valentine’s Day!
If you follow me on Goodreads you know that I’ve had a few books on my “Currently Reading” shelf for more than a year. Two of them are The Artist’s Way Every Day and Simple Abundance I started both of these “daybooks” last year and stopped reading when life changed dramatically: Lily switched schools, I started my MFA program, and I really got serious about publishing Stealing the Ruby Slippers.
Last year I was trying to be really strict about reading them. It was something for my To-Do list and if I missed a few days I made myself go back and get caught up, entirely defeating the purpose of short bursts of inspiration.
This year, I’m doing things differently, and I’m loving it.
I’m missing days.
I’m purposefully skipping days.
I’m stopping in the middle of reading to journal or create.
And it’s WONDERFUL.
Yesterday, this Lucille Ball quote stood out to me in Simple Abundance, so I sat down and made myself a Valentine.
Lily loves Valentine’s Day (hearts, pink, it’s her thing) and it’s the anniversary of the first “real” date Chris and I went on. I have plans for special things for the kids and special things for Chris today. So, it was perfect, yesterday, to be reminded to do something special for myself too.
Selflessness has been put on a pedestal as the highest virtue, while narcissism is condemned. Often, the verse where Jesus says to “Love your neighbor as yourself” is quoted as a reminder to put other people first. Here’s the thing, though. We’re forgetting the last part of what he said. “As yourself.” Which means that it’s okay to love yourself. In fact, YOU NEED TO BE ABLE TO SHOW LOVE TO YOURSELF BEFORE YOU CAN SHOW LOVE TO SOMEONE ELSE. Like the airlines say, “In the event of a loss of cabin pressure, an oxygen mask will automatically appear in front of you.Place it firmly over your nose and mouth, secure the elastic band behind your head, and breathe normally. If you see someone who requires assistance, secure your mask on first, and then assist the other person.”
Because we’ll all pass out if we’re so busy trying to put a mask on someone else we can’t breathe ourselves.