Full disclosure: I’m typing this in the car somewhere in Central Illinois, and I haven’t had full internet access for over a week. So I haven’t actually figured out how to deactivate my account yet. But I’m doing it on December 31.
My family got in the car on December 16 for a trip from our home in Minnesota to Orlando to visit DisneyWorld (our first time!) and then to Kentucky to spend time with my husband’s family around Christmas. By the time we get home, we will have spent 52 hours driving, so I’ve had a lot of time to think. And be bored. And use our data plan to check Facebook.
Last fall I put a limiter on my computer and phone so I couldn’t access Facebook more than 15 minutes a day. Then a friend died and I took the limiter off so I could follow the plans for her funeral and memorials. I took the FB app off my phone to try to reduce the number of times I brainlessly clicked the thumbnail and launched the program. It didn’t work, I just logged in through the web browser. It did, however, make looking through the newsfeed more cumbersome, so I generally just check my notifications and get back out. So I decided it was okay.
Then I realized I was compulsively checking my notifications, so I took a Facebook hiatus (except to update my author feed) this summer. Like when I took the shopping hiatus in 2012, I had a really hard time for the first few days…which really shone a light on how ridiculous my Facebook addiction had become. After two weeks, I felt like I had it more under control.
Before we left for this trip, I started to notice that I was checking Facebook a lot at night, mostly before I was getting into bed or while watching TV— while I was tired. It wasn’t necessarily time I would have been doing anything else super productive anyway, but it didn’t leave me with a good feeling. But because of my author page, I thought I needed to keep it.
This trip, though, after excessively checking Facebook out of sheer boredom, I’ve come to the following decision: I’m done with it, at least for now. The overwhelming majority of what I see in my feed (and, I think, what a lot of people see) is negative, and usually political or religious. I don’t feel good after using it, and I don’t feel like I’m able to keep up with my friends and family.
As far as my author page goes: there is no way to keep it active if I deactivate my own account, even if I create a separate, fake account, and make that account an admin. Trust me. I’ve researched it a lot. And unless something major changed that I don’t know about, it’s forever tied to the fate of my personal account.
I could create a new author account and ask everyone to go like that page, but I’m not going to. Facebook is instituting some major policy changes in the next month that will make my posts, which already get pretty pathetic delivery rates, basically invisible unless I pay for advertising. And I just don’t want to. I did for Spiraling Forward Jewelry and received zero return on my investment. And I don’t think my target readers are spending massive amounts of time on Facebook (although I was, so you never know). So, I’m going to let it get deactivated too, and try to get better at Twitter.
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